So, how is the 3D on this projector? Now that's a question I'm not yet prepared to answer either, but I will provide some guidance.
Overall, I'm not a fan of DLP-Link solutions, every time I see an alternative, it's typically brighter and better looking, but I haven't viewed 3D with this projector. (They didn't send the glasses!) The good news is that this week (it's Dec. 18, 2013) Optoma is going to ship me the emitter and the new glasses, so there definitely will be an update.
I did, however, get to play with the emitter and the newer glasses when I reviewed the not too different HD25-LV projector this past summer. The HD25-LV is roughly $500 more, but it's mostly extra features, rather than brighter…
I found the 3D to be very good on the HD25-LV and would expect a repeat performance with the HD131Xe projector. Optoma's new solution seems to be crosstalk free (unless there's cross-talk inherent in the content itself), which is about what we should expect with most single chip DLP projectors (the advantage of the speed of the DLP mirrors). Overall, the 3D image was fairly bright, allowing for movie viewing easily at 100" diagonal (the HD25-LV and this HD181-LV are very close in terms of brightness).
Pushing out to my maximum 124" diagonal I found 3D just a bit too dim for my taste, for I am more like friends and family in this regard. Enthusiasts will often suffer too dim a 3D solution, because they are really into other aspects of the projector. But, with friends and family, I've found "I'd rather watch in 2D, this is too dark" to be a familiar cry. I'm with them. I want, no insist, that my 3D be adequately bright. So, depending on how you feel about brightness, you should be happy (with a typical 1.3 gain screen) with screen sizes for 3D from a maximum of about 130" diagonal, if you aren't critical, to being pretty satisfied at 110" diagonal or less.
Don't forget, expect the RF glasses to give you a visibly brighter 3D image.